The Fight

2016

Dad and mom become pregnant. 

They are excited to be parents and become true partners and teammates in life.

Mom gives up smoking a drinking and the relationship blossoms. The change in mom’s behavior is very noticeable. Dad falls in love with her more than he could ever imagine. 

Dad and Mom move into a house for rent from Dad’s Aunt, in the summer. 

Both sides of the family help get the house ready for the child. 

Child is born in October. 

Dad and Mom are in love and are blessed with a perfect baby boy . The child is blessed with two parents who are fully dedicated to him. 

Dad works long hours, dedicated to providing for his family.

Mom stays home with child and is the best mom in the world! 

Dad finally feels like life makes sense, he makes the child and the mom his entire world and loves on them at every opportunity. 

Mom remains sober and the 3 of them have a year full of love and peace. Dad is the happiest he has ever been.

2017

The family has many beautiful memories and moments 

November: Dad starts his own sub contracting business and works more than ever

Mom stays home with baby while dad is gone for majority of the day

Mom begins drinking a couple glasses of wine here and there 

2018

Mom stays home with child .She slowly begins drinking again socially

Mom and Dad go out together once or twice a month 

Mom begins drinking occasionally in the afternoons while home with child

By the time Dad comes home she is buzzed. If dad comes home in afternoon, she typically would do laundry. Going to and from the laundry room and the back patio with her phone for hours as the Dad and Child play in the living room. 

The Dad sees this as a need for her to have a break which is understandable but after a while it becomes neglecting to the Dad

Dad pays more attention as Mom becomes less passionate and eventually seems to have no intimate feelings or interest 

If Dad comes home really late, Mom immediately takes Child to bed after allowing Dad to see Child for a moment to say goodnight.

Mom and Child begin staying up between 11pm and 1am typically 

Dad gets more work and works later to keep schedule 

Dad doesn’t have time to text but occasionally looks at phone to see if Mom texted him. There was usually never a text until after Dad had been gone for over 10 hours. 

Dad comes home to a more distant partner who continues to do “ laundry” and always has her phone in her hand 

Dad has to call mom out on her lack of passion for Mom to force intimacy 

They enjoy the nights they go out together once or twice a month but Mom falls asleep on Uber ride home and Dads concern for intimacy is increased

The couple begins to argue . Mom feels pressured , Dad feels neglected 

Mom drinks more and gets so drunk she is in coma like state and can’t wake up to child to breast feed

Dad can’t wake mom up either and results to walking up and down the hallway with the child until he falls asleep 

Dad starts being very late to work and has to work later to make up for it and to keep on schedule 

Dad is distracted and production at work is affected. He loses one of his main work accounts.

Dad tries to tell Mom about these nights and mom tells Dad he is a liar and she thinks he is blaming her for being a bad mom

So Dad records the events a few nights and tries to show Mom. She refuses to watch and begins to hate him. She goes weeks barely talking to him . Dad gets more frustrated, loses more sleep and can’t perform as well at work as he once did 

Mom goes out with her friend a few times throughout the year and comes home after 3am every time. She also comes in house so drunk she can barely get through the door and immediately crashes on the couch or the bed. Or she has to be carried in by Dad from the car she arrived in, or after Mom’s friend hands her off to Dad while mom’s friend struggled to get her to the door.

Bars and clubs close at 2am. Dad brings up this point and states that he would feel much better if she came home before 230 am because all the bars and clubs are 15-20 minutes away. The next time she wants to go out again, Dad asks again if she can at least come home by 230am. She  says she will but then fails to come home before 3 every time . Most times after 330am. 

Dad begins to worry about infidelity. Dad tries to talk to her and is immediately attacked instead of heard. 

Mom starts working part time at local restaurant after they notice she is having problems with being alone all day at the house with infant child. It also was to help with bills because of the lost income.

It seems to help both parents but the drinking is at an all time high. 

Mom begins to show signs of cheating. She is distant from Dad. She never kisses him and makes sex feel like a chore. To mom this is phenomenal effort to make their relationship work. To Dad it still feels like he isn’t truly cared for or desired. Mom is always on her phone. 

Mom’s Snapchat is in the 40k snap range. It shows videos sent to her brothers friend. 

Mom sees snaps by her best friend 

who has recently broke up with her boyfriend. The snaps and Facebook posts show her best friend hanging out with other girls and having lots of fun. This makes Mom jealous of the other girls and feel tied down to the family life. Mom’s best friend was also apart of a family with a man that loved her and they had an innocent amazing child that got pushed into sudden chaos because of pride and lack of commitment and understanding. 

Mom’s friend invited mom out occasionally and mom would go out with her about once or twice every few months. 

Every single time mom went out, she came home 3am or later, completely wasted. 

Every time mom came home , her friend could barely get mom to the door or Dad would have to carry her from the Uber into the house. 

This made Dad worry even more . He would have to wait until the next day to speak to her about these moments. He argued that if everything in their town closes at 2am, why can’t she come home or let him pick her up by 230am. Mom argued with Dad and said he should trust her. She would immediately turn it into Dad having trust issues and their relationship wasn’t going to work because of how he was acting. She sometimes went days without taking to him after dad’s  attempts to be understood. His feelings were never genuinely cared for or understood. 

Until mom wanted to go again. 

Then Dad would reiterate that he trusts mom but when she comes home way past when everything closes AND is THAT drunk and can’t even remember coming home, it is very hard for him. Especially when she is going out with a friend who is single and has had multiple sex partners. 

Mom would suddenly act like she understood where he was coming from and told Dad she would come home around 2:30 and promised no later than 3. 

Then Mom came home blacked out drunk past 3am . Again and again and again. 

Mom would go out with Dad 1-2 times a month and the two would have a blast together when it was just them. 

But when mom went out with Dad and his friends, she would pick a fight with dad and use it to walk away. Sometimes she would be missing for over an hour! 

Once again, making Dad uneasy and making his mind wander while she expected him to think she was faithful as she showed no signs of passion or commitment. 

Before son was born, mom did the same thing to Dad. One time they were at a beach with dad’s friends and ran into one of mom’s friends and two random guys. Mom picked a fight with Dad and then stormed away until she was out of sight. Dad stayed at the fire with his friends and mom never came back . Then dad and his friends went searching for her and found her with her friend and those two guys. 

Another time dad set up a limousine party for mom’s b day. Dad’s friends and mom’s friends pitched in for the limo and went club hopping. Mom suddenly came up missing. Mom’s friends and dad’s friends helped dad search for mom for over an hour. The limo came and right before they had no voice but to leave , one of mom’s friends said “ wait one second, let me check one last time “. Moms friend ran down the street until she was out of site. About 3 minutes later she came back with mom. Mom’s story was she was looking for them too. But dad made one of his friends stay at the entrance of the club they were in while he looked for her for 30 minutes straight. Mom claimed she was outside the entrance of that club for a long period of time . Dad explained how that was impossible and why it was impossible. Mom got very upset with dad and for the rest of the night told dad that he ruined her birthday. 

Something about the alcohol made mom this way. 

Even when she went out with her mom one time to a musical they both liked, she went on a voyage by herself. Mom’s mom told dad about it later. She said mom suddenly came up missing and was found way down the road in the city by herself . She said mom said she was looking for a store to get more beer. Looking for beer at that time at night and at that place in town was very dangerous. Didn’t make dad comfortable on many different levels. 

Late 2018

Mom begins coming home from work with her eyes red and glossy. It was different than when she just drank. Mom still drank when she got home but now she was a lot calmer. She was “ in the mood “ when her eyes looked like that too. The chill vibe and passionate mood was AWESOME to dad. But as he continued to see her eyes different he wondered what it was. So Dad questioned her about it while explaining that he loved whatever it was and that he was just curious but mom went to the defensive. She swore he was crazy and said she wasn’t taking any other medicine or drug and attacked dad with accusations of not trusting her and other things completely irrelevant . She asked him “ what you think I’m smoking weed “? Dad told her he didn’t think that . He knew it wasn’t weed because weed made mom paranoid and she wasn’t paranoid. Plus,  she didn’t smell like weed at all. Yet one day mom came home fro the store and tossed a weed test kit on Dads lap and said “ still think I’m lying “? This actually made Dad think she was lying even more because he already told her he didn’t think it was weed. So even though dad loved the new mood from mom, the lies made things once again too much to ignore. 

This was when mom started to slowly despise dad. 

2019

Dad continues to work long hours  

Mom slowly increases the average of drinking alcohol to 4-5 days a week.

February 

Dad and mom go to dad’s friend 44’s party. Mom picks a fight with dad so dad leaves her be. Mom ends up talking in 44’s garage with dad’s other friend “hypocrite”. He checks back on her and sees her dying laughing . Dad trusts her for the first time because of how strong their relationship became. Mom continued to act like she hated dad for the rest of the night. Dad saw mom staring at hypocrite many times. Dad brought this up to mom and she called dad crazy. Dad brought it up a couple more times at random moments in the next 4 months. 

Mom acted like it bothered her so much she might actually walk out the door. Mom told dad that she thinks hypocrite is disgusting and she would NEVER touch him in a million years!

March  

Mom and her best friend get ready to go to a concert. The concert didn’t start until 8or9. Yet mom started drinking at 6. Mom got angry at Dad for showing concern about her already drinking and said she would be wasted before she got there. He told her he wouldn’t care as much if she didn’t always come home way past 2am and always come home unable to walk. While she was angry she once again promised she’d be back before 2am. Dad left it alone because he also knew someone is more likely to cheat if the have animosity towards their partner. Mom went out and recorded about 15 videos of her dancing sexually and making sexual faces to the camera while surrounded by a bunch of people. 

To Dad’s surprise mom came home at midnight! First time she ever came back before 2am! Mom was angry at her best friend. She told dad it was because her best friend got upset that mom left her alone for 30 minutes. So YET AGAIN mom goes out, gets drunk and ends up missing! Dad tried to ignore it but it’s too much by then. Dad thinks of how every time her and him go out, she falls asleep In The Uber between 2am and 3am on the way home. Mom argues it was dad’s fault because he kept feeding her shots and she was too drunk. But when she went out without dad she came home way more drunk and was able to stay up until 3/4am no problem. Plus she has gone missing for chunks of time in public places over and over and over again ! There is not one thing in all of this that would make a partner feel confident in their other half . Most people would probably leave within weeks and have the need to talk about it. For dad to be immediately struck with aggression and accusations of things made things ridiculously cruel and impossible. Dad found himself incapable of getting to the bottom of something he desperately needed to. The complete disregard for something mom would have left dad for if he did it to her one time, made him lose even more trust. The problem was never solved because mom made it impossible to solve. If dad stood his ground on the matter, mom would literally not speak to dad for weeks, acting like dad did something to her! 

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This made Dad realize that mom couldn’t handle being blamed and would go to unreal and unfair extents to avoid any exposure or to take any responsibility. Dad wishes he knew how far she’d go. If he knew then what he knows now, he feels the next 5 years could have played out very much differently and maybe they’d still be a family. This a very huge point that people must see. The next 5 years and how Dad claimed to know Mom more than anyone will be understood much more if anyone reading this read everything leading up to this point. It will explain why Dad offered so many crazy scenarios to mom and why Dad never truly exposed mom until now. Sadly , it shows how much Dad really did love Mom and how everything mom accused Dad of now, is completely unfair. The worst thing out of all of this is how Dad was taken advantage of because mom knew he loved her. Dad has been treated like a he was a threat while he actually protected mom’s secrets. He was treated like he was crazy and like mom was a victim while he kept the truth a secret and while he tried relentlessly to get through to her BECAUSE HE KNEW IF SHE KEPT GOING THIS ROUTE HE WOULD ONE DAY HAVE NO CHOUCE BUT TO DO THE ONE THING THAT WOULD MAKE MOM DO SOMETHING SO CRAZY IT WOULD POSSIBLY HURT DAD OR PUT HIM IN JAIL, OR HE WOULD LOSE HER FOREVER! Dad knew things that no one else did for years and kept it a secret. He gave mom tons of options when he was confused and then gave mom tons of options when he found out certain things, Instead of making mom fully aware that he knew. He did these things while being blamed for everything and being labeled the bad guy and nothing was ever accepted. Mom was too focused on coming up with a narrative that would counter the truth had the truth ever came out. She did a very very good job of this and the truth may never really be understood by most people. This is also why Dad said if mom ever moved on with another man, he would immediately show the real truth. Many people now think dad is doing things now out of spite. This is not true. Dad was taking blame he didn’t deserve and holding back the truth because he knew it was the only shot his family had and the only shot at what his son requested. Dad was protecting a person who was trying everything she could to destroy him. While he had FACTS and EVIDENCE. She Used his desperate attempts to not display the evidence against him to create false accusations and manipulated/provoked moments that were not true to who Dad really is. Once son asked dad to go for full custody again, the pressure on dad to work things out with mom became much greater. He knew he had to make something work or he had to get them out of this. Once mom actually had the nerve to move on after destroying Dad’s character and making her son not want to be with her at all, he knew it was time. Dad’s love for mom and his son was actually what made everything worse and worse. Dad should have shut it all down in late 2019. 

June 29th

44 had another party that mom once again picked a fight with dad at. Dad’s other friends witnessed it and couldn’t believe how she picked a fight with him out of nowhere. Dad replied “ she does it all the time now, I don’t know why she’s like that”. This really wore on Dad. 

Later that night mom took a video of dad and mom. She was suddenly acting cute and being fun. This confused dad but he went with it because all he wanted was he’d and him to have fun and enjoy life. 

Days later dad would see that this video was taken to see what hypocrite was doing behind them. Dad plans to show this video at trial. 

September 21st

Mother plans an all night drinking night for her bday while dad and son are home. 

September 22nd

Mom lists off a bunch of things she doesn’t like about dad the next day. Dad then, out of emotion says “ then leave“. 

Mother jumps at her moment of opportunity, telling everyone that dad kicked her out on her bday

Mother leaves while dad’s truck is broken down . 

Dad Is suddenly faced with paying all the bills and maintaining a house while having no transportation to get to jobs.

Dad has only half of a week to work because child is 3 and not in school yet. 

Dad’s mom helps get the work truck fixed. Dad battles back and pays off bills

Dad finds empty cans of alcohol and convenient store bags at bottom of dirty clothes pile after doing all the laundry. Dad connects the dots why Mom always seemed to be doing the laundry when he got home from work. This makes dad see that the drinking was way worse than he thought. 

Son cries every other night. Dad knows there is something more to the story 

Dad and mom do everyday drop off of the child. The child has enormous outbursts of anger and sadness when mom comes to take him away from dad and his home. 

The child cries , screams and begs to not go. Dad is filled with anger and confusion as mom doesn’t shed one tear. 

As these outbursts continue every other day, mom begins to blame the dad for the child not wanting to go with her. 

This adds to the already overwhelming emotions that dad was having. It infuriates him to a point that he calls mom out on everything. 

Dad is alone/mom has company 

But then dad is alone in a house with a dead silence that haunts him and makes him miss his family 

Mom doesn’t ever deal with this to this extent because she has her mom and dad with her on the days she doesn’t have child Dad starts trying to figure out mom so he can fix the situation.

Mom provides no insight, no explanation whatsoever other than , “ maybe you shouldn’t kick someone out of their home”

Dad explains that it can’t really be that because they both know he didn’t really kick her out. He states that it has to be something deeper because the child is clearly suffering immensely and she would force it to be this way if it wasn’t because of something else. 

Dad then gives in and takes blame. He apologizes but mom doesn’t like the way he apologized. 

Dad tries relentlessly to show mom he loves her but mom is relentlessly stubborn. Mom rejects dad’s request to hang out over n over again. 

Mom gives in to child wanting to stay with dad countless times. Sometimes giving in for a week straight. 

This makes dad reschedule work because he is destroyed inside and feels a huge need to be there for the child. 

As the days pass , the child becomes more dependent on dad. 

Dad goes back in forth between anger and sadness while mom provides no closure and no help for any chance of working things out. 

This is the beginning of dad’s mental struggles and mom’s selfish manipulation. Mom only increases the confusion as the years go by. 

Dad regrets not pulling the trigger and going for full custody to help mom at this moment. He thought it was just mom having another stubborn moment. Plus he had no idea a pandemic was right around the corner . 

2020

The first moment Dad and Son face adversity together 

Dad battles back with work. 

February: 

Dad spends his last $500 on acquiring liability insurance, workers comp and setting up payroll w Paychex. 

March: 

Covid hits 

Dad and mom still do pick up drop off every other day at mom’s request.

This makes Dad more uneasy because he feels like even when people are scared for their lives and dying, she couldn’t see the bigger picture. Or she just really didn’t care. Or she had a serious addiction problem. 

Mom expects dad to not go see his side of the family , yet mom lives with her parents and forces the every other day pick up drop off.

Lockdown 

🔹Dad also explains to mom that he is using an old 1998 work truck and needs it to get through a few months of work at least , so he can upgrade.🔹

He explained that if mom came home , it would make sense for mental and physical health, financially and for longevity of being able to provide for their son. The crisis makes Dad see things even deeper and tries to make mom see it too. He offers to even sleep on the couch. Mom says no over and over again. When she is asked why , she has no explanation. 

She states that if she could write it down, she thinks she could explain it. Dad reminds her of this a few times in the future but she never does it. The conversation for closure 

Or understanding never ends up happening. 

Dad eventually didn’t have money for gas to pick up Son every other night. That still wasn’t a good enough reason for mom to come home. She paid $10-$20 a couple times with her free money out of the kindness of her heart so the torture could continue. 

April/May: 

Mom gets $900 from unemployment. a $600 increase. 

Dad waits months to get his and when he finally gets it, it is about 25% of what he was making before covid hit because he is self employed. 

Dad borrows money to pay for internet and uses his time to bid on upcoming construction projects and to bond with son. 

Trapped in a house with just the two of them , the 1 on 1 time makes the two of them even closer. The once felt “3 of us against the world” becomes more like it’s just the “2 of them”.  The more time they spent, the more their relationship became something very special and very unique. 

The child wants to stay with Dad even more so than he displayed before covid. 

And mom gives in more than ever to the child’s requests to stay with Dad. 

This time period is what became a huge problem for mom. It was the true beginning of the child separating from his mother. 

Mother blames Dad for child’s increase in displeasure when she comes to get the child. Dad is torn between missing her and the 3 of them together, and then feeling anger for mom’s relentless refusal to see the truth and her increase in false accusations against Dad to block guilt and responsibility. 

Mom begins to hate Dad. Dad tries to explain that the child is too young to brainwash and displays patience and assistance to mom picking up the child. Despite Dad’s efforts to help the mom, the child remains unwavering. 

This obviousness is ignored by mom which again , increases Dad’s mental wars of confusion and back n forth emotions of feeling sad then angry, supportive then defensive, lost then motivated. Mom shows no change and the patience runs thin, making Dad step up for the child and him. This makes mom and dad argue in front of the child which mom calls out like she is suddenly concerned for the child’s well being and to further imply that Dad is the issue. So Dad eventually resorts to recording the moments mom comes to pick up the child and stops assisting the mom. He occasionally tries to help and occasionally gets lured into another argument because of the every other day toll the traumatic moment occurred.

Summer 2020: 

With the lockdown over with,  Dad starts a new construction project in Dunkirk NY in late June. 

Gc: Calamar construction 

Owner: STEL

Contract: $75k ($85k after change orders) 

The project was about a 2 hour drive in the old truck Dad had. After the first two times going down it became obvious that Dad was  a lot better off staying in Dunkirk for the week.

July-Sept: 

Dad still called every night via FaceTime and thought the money from the project would possibly bring the 3 of them back together. He figured it would at least bring his career to the next level so that his son and him would never have to go without again. 

The long weeks were very hard on Dad. It made him miss the two of them and the need for him to have his family back became paramount. He would try to show change and show he was sorry to mom and was completely humbled by what they meant to him. He worked like a mad man with the thought of them in his head for the entire summer. 

Dad came back every weekend for 1 or 2 days to see son. The moment of reunification between dad and son was always dramatic and it showed that there was never any brainwashing involved. For now mom had the child most of the time but the bond that was built between son and dad was too strong by then.  When mom came to get son after the son and dad had 1-2 days together, the son would fight and cry just like before. The two were always closer than most parent/child relationships. But the lockdown took their connection to a whole different galaxy that was so deep that it would become super easy for mom to blame everything on brainwashing.  

From 2022 to present time,  child related professionals thought and still think for sure that the Dad is brainwashing the child. The guilt deep inside mom made her realest love for the son and dad impossible to connect to. Neither of them would ever feel that from her again and only Dad can remember what it was like. The disconnect by mom because of internal conflict made mom drink more. She gave in to the child l’s requests to stay with Dad and never shed one tear during the countless times her son cried to not go with her. And the only thing that helped her forget about those skeletons was at her parents house. This terrible reality for mom would be something no one could help her with because she kept it a secret and never tried to talk to Dad. The son felt the disconnect unknowingly , even when he was with mom 5 days a week for an entire summer. The mutual feeling that dad and son felt from mom would make both of them need each other more. Especially since both of them didn’t know what they were really feeling and neither really understood it. Even though dad thought guilt was a serious possibility It took Dad years to realize how real it was. Mom would later find her way out of the guilt by pushing dad to a mental place that made it look like dad was the one to blame. She would eventually spread this provoked and misleading reality to almost everyone around her. More on this to come. 

Sept: 

🔹With over 80% of the project done , Dad still hadn’t received 1 payment. One day, he was on his typical ride home one week and about half way back the truck’s engine died. 

He was stranded in Buffalo on William’s st 🤫

No one answered the phone besides Mom. She wasn’t happy about it but she did come and get Dad. 🔹

Sept-Nov:

Finishing the remaining 20% of the project without the big work truck took almost just as long as the first 80%. This was due to inabilities of transporting materials because the big truck was no longer available. Also because Dad had to borrow money just to get to that point and then still had to borrow because the payments that did come continued to come later and later . By the time the year ended, a 4 month project with $45k profit turned into a 7 month nightmare and going negative $35k! 

Dad had to spend the late checks he received on paying people back and getting through the next month with a rental truck that was half the size of his old work truck . Every time he was promised the next check would come sooner but Calamar construction would be late on the next payment every single time.  This forced dad to borrow again because at that point he had to finish the project or they would have used it as an excuse to not pay him anything. The truck breaking down with 80% left was monumental and overcoming that with the lack of money was impossible to do. Even with dad’s work ethic and top tier motivation to get his family back or get his son and him out of a situation that they didn’t deserve to be in. It came down to dad’s mom’s boyfriend giving him money for a U-Haul to go finish the project and bring make all of his equipment and extra material. In that final week , Dad placed a picture of his son on the trucks dash. 

By then it was obvious that mom had no sympathy or interest in anything to do with dad. While dad was going through another enormous battle, he couldn’t help but think back on how he mentioned the wear and tear that the truck was taking for no reason and how it really did cost him later in such an enormous way. Then when he was treated like her picking him up was such a nuisance and then later had it rubbed in face of how she helped him so much, he couldn’t bite his tongue. Dad felt like she once again played a big role in his life and his child’s life being way harder than it should’ve been. 

The money dad owed to so many people caused a lot of drama and made him let down a lot of people . The loss of the truck caused 1.5 extra months of work. That’s 1.5 months of a truck rental, hotel fees, gas, loss of other work that could’ve been being made during that time. $2500 for hotels. $4000 for truck rentals. There are many more details that could be broken down to prove this but it shall be spared due to the hope that most will perfectly understand already. 

But Mom acted appalled when Dad blamed her for the truck . He knew it wasn’t all of her fault but he knows if she didn’t force the pick up /drop off for 2.5 months, he would have over come Calamar’s disrespect and delays they presented. 

These are REAL losses financially during a moment that needed to be successful because of a pandemic that no one had control over . A pandemic that screwed the self employed.

Mom brought up her moment of help to drive all the way to Buffalo to pick up dad , the times she lent him money for gas and the couple of times she dropped son off to dad in 2019 when she left 3 days after dad’s truck broke down the first time . When Dad finally argued his side of things , mom never forgot it . She walked around for weeks like dad did something horrible to her and brought up his ungrateful dad was for her help many times. 

This was the beginning of Dad’s once very close relationships falling apart and there being animosity that never existed before . Particularly with dad’s aunt who was also the landlord of the dad’s and son’s home. The home that was once the mom’s too. The home that once had two phenomenal parents and the happiest child to ever step foot on this planet . The home where the front door remained open for her for 5 years. 

The more Mom showed her lack of care the more Dad displayed anger because it hurt him. 

He thought he was worth some type of effort. Especially when he knew the reason she left wasn’t because of him. But any moments of Dad standing up for himself or the son were added up and never forgotten by Mom. Almost like she was building a profile to help her show everything she went through too. But of course not mentioning what happened before . Not mentioning the countless times she was treated kindly when she did the opposite. Mom used every moment of Dad stating facts that she didn’t like against him to keep acting like she had a reason to be impossible. 

5 years with no effort . She recently blamed it all on Dad . Telling him she never gave them one chance and then actually got engaged to another man because Dad wasn’t always nice .

2021

January 

Valentine’s Day 

Mom didn’t reach out to say happy Valentine’s Day to son or stop by with a gift . But dad and son still stopped by her work with his gift for her, only to see her dolled up like she had plans to go out on a date or go party. This confirmed to dad that she was avoiding them completely to do what was more important . It hurt to see her trying so hard for someone else or for a party night in general . It hurt even more when it was also confirmed that she had more important plans than being there for son. Son said to dad “ she couldn’t even fit him in for a 5 minute stop”? This was BEFORE the first court case. This was how she was and is . Only difference is now that she forces herself to do things that make her look like an innocent loving mother because of court. 

March 

Dads sister and dads mom tell mom that she needs to stop saying the reason she left was because dad kicked her out. They tell mom it’s obvious she left and bring up the fact that all of her clothes are still at dads house and how they know he’s been trying and that he has apologized many times for anything that was his fault. They tell mom that if she doesn’t want to be with dad be upfront with dad so he can have closure. 

March 17th

Mom hangs out with dad at dad’s house. Dad still can’t get mom to go out to dinner or go out and party like they use to . 

Mom makes noises like dad is hurting her . This makes it obvious to dad that she is trying to set him up . 

October 28th 

Mom hangs out with Dad. 

Mom sleeps over . The parents decorate the house for Sons birthday the next day. 

October 29th

Son wakes up to breakfast n bed and singing happy birthday day by his parents. He then walks out to a blazer maze the parents made for him by use of neon blue string. Together they make his birthday perfect. Dad has his feelings for mom come back and he tries again to make things right. Mom shows him disrespect by giving no glimpse of effort. Dad eventually gets frustrated and says things that mom thinks are mean. 

Dad tells mom he is going to take her to court if she doesn’t stop being these ways towards son and dad.  

November 2nd

Mom helps dad with work. She denies dad’s request to hang out again. Dad gets even more frustrated. 

December 3rd

Dad finds an old video from a party that dad and mom went to that his old friend named hypocrite also went to. In the video it appears that mom and hypocrite got to know each other very well. Dad doesn’t know for sure yet because the video is blurry after having to zoom in where mom and hypocrite were. So dad invites mom out again the same way he has for years . But this time dad invites her to hang out with his old friend hypocrite and makes them both aware that he invited both of them . 

December 4th

Hypocrite sends link to dad. Dad opens the link that showed something funny about uncommitted people these days .

Mom accepts dad’s invite. 

December 5th

Mom goes out with dad for the first time in two years 

Mom acts like the perfect girlfriend and shows no interest in hypocrite

Mom sleeps over and dad begins to think he was wrong about his assumptions and thinks that maybe mom is really trying to work things out 

December 6th

Mom and dad go to pick up Son from dads mom’s house

Son is ecstatic and asks if mom will sleep over again. And she does

Dad gets the best night of sleep he’s had in two years 

December 7th

The family wakes up together and for the first time the mom and dad get their son ready for school together. 

Dad's dropbox folder is modified at 3:30 in the morning.

Mom tells them how she was up until 4am watching shows and how she went out in the kitchen to get food. 

The parents get the happiest boy in the world on the bus. Dad could see the joy in son and could tell he was loving every single second of having a family again. Mom leaves to go to her parents house some time after on a very positive note. 

When son gets home he brings up how awesome it was to have mommy back home. Dad agrees and says “ I think we are going to get mommy back “. Son smiles and they enjoy the rest of the day together. 

December 10th-12th

Mom goes stone cold .

Dad calls mom to invite her over for a movie. 

Mom replies with a tone of zero care saying “no”. Dad invites her to do something the next couple of days and the monotone “no” is mimicked every time. Dad becomes frustrated and eventually goes right back to thinking she played him and that she only came out because of hypocrite or for malicious intent.

For the rest of December mom continues to be impossible. 

December 

Dad tells mom about the video he has that appears to show mom engaged with hypocrite at a party mom and dad went to with dad’s friends.

Mom denies it at first but after a while believes dad knows something . 

She resorts to claiming she must have been drugged and taken advantage of.

Dad tells her to stop lying and that he knew for a fact she wasn’t drugged because he drove her home and she was walking perfectly fine in the video after the moment between hypocrite and her.

Mom brings up the incident to hypocrite

Hypocrite texts dad saying he is appalled that dad would think he would do something like that . Hypocrite mentions a past scenario in dad’s life in which dad’s childhood friend got dad’s ex girlfriend knocked up. Hypocrite says he would never do something like the other old friend did to dad. (Yes we are putting this here for a future encounter with you hypocrite.)

Dad tells hypocrite that mom was saying she must have been drugged. Then how she went back to calling dad a liar after she spoke to hypocrite to see what he said. 

Dad says that he might call the cops to make a report because he can see for sure something happened but he can’t make out who the guy is just yet. 

Hypocrite falls for the trap and makes it a point to say that “if anyone thinks some druggy rapey stuff is going on , let the cops or whoever know that they have my full cooperation.”

2022 

January 

Dads business communications are blocked 

Dad signs back up on home advisor. He does good for a few months with a buy in of $500 worth of customer leads. So he doubles it the next month to get double the leads. All of a sudden all of his emails/quotes fail to get to the customers. The communication is blocked and he thinks it’s because of his Gmail having issues with his Apple devices. However the real issue was something that would serve as the evilest thing he’s ever encountered. Someone was hacking his accounts but he didn’t know who. He suspected a shady app called Mico who scammed customers with casino type games online . And of course he suspected mom because of how she went stone cold on him after 3 perfect days from Dec 5th-Dec 7th 2021. 

January 

Hypocrite gets covid

Mom suddenly gets vaccinated a day later 

January

Mom hides her work secrets

Dad goes to mom’s work to see if they could switch days for something dad had planned.  Mom hides in the back for 15 minutes.

Dad leaves but thinks maybe she was doing whatever use to make her eyes different and act different before she walked out on them. So he turns around and within 30 seconds mom and 3 of her coworkers have the lights off, doors locked , jackets on, and already headed to their cars.  Dad gets out and walks up to mom to see if her eyes look the way they did before and it is confirmed. 

January 

Dad begins looking into how to file for full custody. He is now worried that mom is addicted to something else and feels he needs to help her or get son and him away from something that will remain impossible. 

January

Dad finds help from hypocrite’s mom vira. 

Vira called dad her third son. Dad always looked out for vira, especially after vira’s husband passed away and hypocrite was too selfish to help her. Vira volunteered to serve mom with the petition. 

February 

Papa climbs aboard team NARC

Dad requests for mom’s dad to bring the child out when dad comes to pick up the child. This is where it is believed that mom got her dad involved and where mom really started her false reality. What her dad thought was what was always most important to mom. Once she passed the test of making him think she was a victim… there would be no turning back. 

Dad checks his other devices that had very important evidence for child custody. The evidence is gone. Dad had 7 different devices holding those files. NONE of them had the files anymore! 

March 

A data breach occurs for dad’s phone number and email . “A sensitive source whose identity is protected because of an ongoing investigation”, is all that is said about the breach. 

March

Mom asks son what he wants her to die her to. Son mentions blonde. 

Mom says she won’t do blonde for a long time because the last time she did , it fried her hair. ♦️

April 

Vira puts dad in contact with her friend Mateo from the public defender’s office. 

April

Mom’s dad spends big for a lawyer 

April 27th

First day of court

Dad’s text messages are manipulated and then used against him as if they had something to do with parenting . 

Dad is accused of sexually harassing mom when she comes to pick up child. This was not true at all. Mom allowed dad to hold her, put his arm around her when they played video games with son and even sat on his lap many times. 

April

Dad’s petition clearly stated he is not trying to keep the child away from the mother. He is requesting temporary custody until mom gets help. He requests alcoholic treatment and a hair follicle test. None of which were acknowledged. 

June

At the next hearing , mom shows up with the top of her hair bleached. ♦️ No one cares (UPDATE 7/25: probably because the family court told her to get it bleached)

July

Dad is told that he will be able to show the evidence he still had at trial. Dad relentlessly tries to recover the deleted evidence every single day for the next 5 months. He spends hours every day on the phone with Apple, Microsoft, Google and Adobe. It becomes clear that someone is making sure he doesn’t get it back. 

Dad starts screenshotting and screen recording everything. 

Dad tries to transfer his evidence related to custody to an sd card but everything there is an unknown error. He sends PD a link to an iCloud folder that PD says he couldn’t get into. 

September30th

Son is throwing up while Mom is working during their phone call . 

Saturday night Dad picks son up :  he is slightly congested and his voice is gone , runny nose 

Sunday : voice is gone , runny nose , congested 

Monday : goes to school , comes back home congested , runny nose 

At night he says his throat hurts. Back to the typical bs 

Early November 

Discovery day. Dad meets with public defender(pd) to give his remaining evidence and to learn what mom’s evidence was. Pd’s office is about to close and pd is going on vacation. Dad explains he wasn’t able to transfer all of his evidence to an SD card. PD says he can have someone look into dad’s iCloud if he gives him the password. Dad hesitates. 

PD brings up how his office is about to close . Thinking pd would communicate with dad through email and text while on vacation, dad lets PD get going. The two take the elevator down and exit the building. 

Dad sends emails to PD that have a return message “on vacation, will return November 14th. Dad realizes that's 1 day before trial. He can’t get the rest of mom’s evidence to even prepare by himself. 

November 15th

Live to fight another day !

Dad asks PD If they can adjourn because they didn’t have a chance to prepare. PD says the judge won’t allow it. 

Trial turns into agreement as dad is scared into going to agreements.

Pd, mom’s lawyer, darki bar and judge foolman all have a meeting for almost an entire hour while mom and dad wait in the lobby . Pd talks to dad afterwards and says “ someone is going to get majority custody , is it worth the risk?" Dad says “are you saying that it might not be me?" Pd says “ well you never know”. Dad says he found the deleted evidence but couldn’t transfer it, but that he’s willing to hand over his phone as evidence. Pd tells dad the judge doesn’t want to see anything with the child in a video. 

So for 9 months Dad searched for this evidence for trail then was told it was too old and the judge doesn’t want to see anything with the child! Making it clear, PD was an advocate for the court and dad knew he couldn’t go to battle with him on his side.

Later a transcript of the hearing would show that the secret meeting was agreed to be held off the record. 

November 16th

Dad reports the unfair opportunity to prepare for trial to the grievance committee. 

The grievance committee doesn’t get back to him. 

December 24th

Mom gives up Christmas morning to get drunk with her family 

Son and dad will carry on the tradition of waking up at dad’s mom’s house for Christmas . Before dad’s sister past away dad’s mom already had custody of 2 of dad’s sister’s kids. Dad’s sister would bring over her other 4 kinds while dad and mom brought son and they would all spend the night and celebrate Christmas morning together. This became a chore for mom because she always wanted to keep drinking at her family’s traditional Yahtzee drink part on Christmas Eve. 

This Christmas Eve she acted like she was being so awesome that she was giving up Christmas morning so the kids could be together. This is where making dad the bad guy works out perfect for mom’s lifestyle.

Son made a card for dad’s mom for Christmas. 

So dad and son drive to mom’s house on the way to dad’s mom’s house to get the card. Believe it or not , dad would’ve called first but his phone was dead and he was rushing after getting clothes and presents together. When they got to mom’s there was a party happening and when mom came to the door she was already drunk at around 9:30pm. She allowed son to go in and get the card but made dad wait outside of course. Son told dad that everyone had a beer in their hands. 

So after mom tricked the court into thinking she was a victim and got them all to ignore dads evidence and scare dad into agreements because they thought mom wasn’t that bad and dad was just crazy , the proof comes out 5 weeks later in a very brutal and cruel way! This was a huge eye opener for son. 

Let’s say that again . This was a huge eye opener for son ! This was one of many moments that the child put everything together on his own that told him he wasn’t as important to mom as other things. The truth is clear . Mom puts her family in the backseat while her guilt and lifestyle rides shotgun. Blaming dad for everything is a way she can continue to not be apart of things whenever she feels like it. 

Keep in mind that son wants to be with dad because he is loved and put first all the time. Dad bases his life around son. 

Then times like this when mom puts son in second are just insult to injury. Making son want it even more. As the years have gone by, son wants more and more to be with dad. Shame on the court and everyone else for ignoring these moments and forcing themselves to believe that dad is setting mom up. It’s the opposite and always has been . Let the two boys have some peace !

2023

February 6th

First hearing is adjourned because Emanuel has conflict in schedule.
April 5th . Son is sick again and can’t go to ninja warrior. One of dad’s extra moments to be with son , ruined again by the environment that he doesn’t want to be in .

UNDER CONSTRUCTION

Late May 2023

Finally dad got in contact with PD. They revised the altered agreement that was written up by mom’s lawyer. Dad stated what he wanted to see changed and PD said he would get those things fixed , then give dad one more chance to review things before dad agrees. Pd also told dad he would get a transcript of the agreement hearing . Neither happened. 

(See more details of 2023 on page “the fight so far “)

June 6th 2023 

Agreement is signed without dad’s knowledge. The agreement is altered . One key thing being a rule that was “no alcohol or drugs around the child or where the child will be” TO “no excessive alcohol or drugs around the child “.

October 29th 2023

Mom shows up 3 hours late to son’s birthday that she use to attend for breakfast in bed when son woke up. 

October 31st

Mom tries to get so to go trick or treating for an hour with her. 

Son refuses to go with mom because she hurt him one too many times. 

Mom tries to force son to go with her but he refuses. Dad is blamed. Mom says it’s a court order and says the agreement is finally signed, but only mom was given a copy. 

Son requests that dad goes for full custody. 

November 

Mom doesn’t plan a b day party for son and ignores Dad’s invite to help him throw a b day party for son

November 25th 2023

Son tells dad he went to the strong museum with mom and her friend and his daughter. 

Mom tells dad and son later on the phone that he is just a friend. 

November 26th

Dad tells mom it would still be nice if son had his mom at his b day party. Mom comes for an hour. Dad quietly tells her that “Mr.anonymous has to go". Mom says “ok”. Dad says he is serious and mom again says “ok” in a genuine manner. 

November 

Mom still refuses to say man’s name so dad says he will have him investigated. Mom admits to “ seeing someone” after lying to son or dad for who knows how long. They asked mom if she had a bf on and off for years

November 26th

Dad and child ask mom about the man. Mom says he’s just a friend but refuses to tell them his name. 

November 26th

Dad schedules a counseling session for the child to have a 3rd party assess what the child really thinks. This is because the mom continues to act like the child is keeping secrets from dad and that everything the child tells the dad is only because he wants to make dad happy . 

November 28th

Dad tells mom he will have the anonymous man investigated because she brought a man that had to be kept anonymous around his child. Mom then admits to him being someone she is “talking to”. ( show screenshot of text of her sticking up for his kids)

December 2nd

Doomsday

Mom dumps son off to dad after making an excuse to drop him when usually dad picks him up. Dad has seen this before and couldn’t take it anymore. Him and son get in their truck to go see if she was once again dropping son off to go out drinking. There they see a white gmc sierra in the driveway. As they drive by, they finally see the truth of who mom is. They’re world is flipped upside down as dreams crash into a million pieces. To make matters worse they are then mocked by the anonymous man saying “byyyeeeeee”. Dad stops , looks back at mom and tells her Monday he will be seeing a lawyer . Then the man and her both say “ byeeeeee”. As they drive home son is whispering in the back seat . Dad asks son what he’s saying. Son tells dad he was praying to Aunt Kari , his cousin mila that passed away and God. Dad in complete shock asks him what he prayed for. Son says “i asked them to please help us “. Dad and son get to the house and dad does everything he can to make son know that they will be ok and that none of it is his fault . Son cries and dad asks him “ if you could say something to your mom right now what would it be”? Son says “ I would ask her why she messed up our family “. Dad says “ then you should tell her that right now”. This was because for the last 5 years mom has blamed everything on dad and dad wanted her to know what she did to his son. Son texted her what he said . Son was ignored. Son still brings up how mom didn’t text him until 23 days later on Christmas . Mom has never spoken to son about this moment. 

December 4th

Dad makes child go with him to Mom’s work to try to make peace and make her understand it doesn’t have to be this way.

Son makes it clear that he doesn’t want to speak to Mom. Instead of her speaking to Son about it , she pokes his sides and tries to be cute to get him to smile . She continues this for at least 15 minutes until son finally gives in a little. Mom then takes dad to the side to tell him that they are never getting married, don’t text her, don’t come to her work and then blames dad for what happened on December 2nd. As dad defends himself, she says out loud “ if you’re going to raise your voice in front of my customers you can leave”. Dad recorded this and can prove that he did not raise his voice and that mom was only concerned with the false narrative staying put. She would later use this a false accusation of dad stalking and harassing her. 

December 5th 

Dad takes child to courage to change counseling. Now with a much more needing of help. 

Counselor immediately states it sounds exactly like the behavior of an addict. She advises dad to go for full custody or else nothing will ever change and they will both be victims until he does something to stop it. (The counselor has over 20 years experience with addicts.)

December 7th

Dad goes to a lawyer from icovangelo who says he can’t help because it’s so close to the agreement just being signed. 

December 8th

Dad speaks to another lawyer who is willing to meet . That lawyer(Emanuel M.) says the dad has a 50/50 shot at a new petition going through because it’s so close to the agreement. Dad chooses to wait until he gets a few more checks from the Christa project. 

December 10th

Dad texts mom out of frustration from his limited ability to file for full custody. and explains his anger towards her and who she has become . He tells her that once he gets his next check, it’s on . He also tells her he knows about something else that she has done and that he will bring it up in court if he has to. 

December 15th

Mom files an order of protection with false accusations and texts that she purposely provoked. It is granted with an order to the dad to only communicate with the mom about the child and to not speak to the child about court. 

December 19th

Dad receives the OOP. Cops state” don’t let this bother you, the court hands these things out like candy”. 

December 20th

Dad tells Emanuel M. about the OOP. Emanuel says they need to take care of the OOP first then go for full custody. 

December 

Mom asks child if he wants to go to the strong museum and child says yes. While getting in the car and excited, mom then tells child the bf and daughter might come. 

Child admitted to being more excited about going to have fun than being upset about the bf going. Child told mom that the bf seemed nice but was referring to the first time they went to the museum. 

Dec 2023

Christa goes 9 weeks in a row without paying Dad. 

Dad is forced into cashing Javen’s check to survive. 

December 25th

Dad and son get two new tv’s from Santa.  A perfect gift for a man cave  that the two planned to have in the basement very soon.

Dec 26th and 27th

Son is sick 

December 31st

Mom was going to bring son to dad’s family’s New Year’s Eve tradition until she found out it wasn’t her holiday. Dad tells her she is still invited but mom is not interested. 

Mom threatens to call the cops on dad. Again, because he messaged her something sad that son said to dad about mom. 

2024

For all of 2024  

Child tells mom he wants to be with his dad. He requests to call dad and is denied. Mom tells child the reason is because the child was mean to her by telling her what he wants. 

Other reasons were “your dad is mean to me” and “ not now”. 

Jan 5th

Son is sick   
Jan 15th

Christa Forman Mike sr has drywall delivered ahead of schedule to delay Dad and make him fail to meet his deadline. Dad was single handedly smoking an entire crew of drywallers. Mike and Angelo didn’t like that.
January 15th

With It more than obvious that Christa wanted dad to fail, he rose to the occasion and worked around the drywall. With three pieces of insulation left to install in the second to last section of the entire building, dad got his hand caught in a sharp metal bracket Because he had to reach over a stack of drywall that shouldn’t have been there.The bracket gouged his finger and sprained his wrist. He received 8 stitches to his right hand.
Jan 16th

Das goes back to work with only his left hand available. 

February 1st

Dad submits pay application to Christa for $12k. Way under what he was owed so that it couldn’t be disputed and to hopefully allow Christa to expedite the check so dad could make the $3200 insurance payment before the policy cancelled 

February 2nd

Insurance canceled 

Dad gets alerted by Christa that no one from his company can step foot on site because the liability insurance was cancelled 

February 4th

Notice to cure

Dad receives a notice to cure which asks for dad’s plan to fix things that weren’t really a problem and how long it would take dad to finish the project. Dad writes back with a schedule that shows 2 weeks of labor tops. The more realistic scenario would have been 1-1.5 weeks left to finish the project. He explains that the insurance agent can be reinstated if he can receive his payment. 

Dad has a job with stellar roofing lined up for around $3500 profit. 

Dad tells Christa he start working on Christa’s project if he receives confirmation that they will not hold it against him and then he can use this profit to pay the insurance. Christa does not reply 

February 6th

First hearing is adjourned because Emanuel has conflict in schedule. 

February 8th

Christa wrongfully terminates dad’s company while he had barely any money 

February 10th

Dad finds out Christa had someone delete his response email to the notice to cure. Dad gets a lawyer named danish mustafa to help him dispute Christa’s scam. He shows mustafa the proof in which mustafa forwards the proof that the response was delivered and Christa did receive it. 

February 23rd

Son is sick

April

First OOP hearing has no agreement. Mom and her lawyer Karen C. request a year extension of the OOP on dad. Trial is set for May 23rd. Dad must undergo the unfair set of rules for another month. 

April

Dad’s lease for his truck is up. Ally financial takes 2 payments out of dad’s account leaving him with -$454. 

April 15th

RGnE shows up to turn power off. Dad explains his injury and financial problems. The RGnE employee says he will write it down in his notes and tells dad to call RGnE on Monday. 

April 21st

Dad submits documents of prior to injury years pay to Nysif thinking the workers comp insurance was going to help. 

May

Dad takes son to baseball practice and games while fixing a flooded basement and trying to get jobs from the compromised business apps. 

May 9th

Dad helps someone else who gets their power turned off by RGnE 

Dad goes out to Fillmore to insulate a shed for a lady named Jeanette Brighon. Jeanette didn’t have much money so dad gave her a great deal. When he arrives no one is there . Suddenly an RGnE van pulls up to disconnect their power. 

Dad decides to leave with 75% of the job done because he didn’t like that no one was home and that Jeanette probably wouldn’t be able to pay . As he goes to leave Jeanette and her husband pull in. Jeanette sadly agrees that dad should probably leave and they will call him once they gave the money. Dad thinks about how he felt when RGnE did that to him and how the lady was trying to move into a shed to cut costs. Plus she would be freezing at night with no heat and no insulation. So dad turns around and starts working again . Jeanette comes out to dad and asks “ what are you doing “? Dad says “ i know how this feels for you and I’m not leaving you like this “, pay me when you can “. Dad knew he probably wouldn’t see a dime but he did it anyways . 

Jeanette started crying and gave dad a HUGE hug like they knew each other forever. Two good people falling apart because of unfair circumstances hugging each other as God's children . 

Dad never got a call back. He lost out on $550 at a moment he needed money bad . But he still helped someone else along the way . 

May 18th

Dad fights through a day of absolute mayhem to get two jobs done that are both an hour away while desperately trying to make it to son’s baseball game and continue his perfect attendance. 

He has no choice but to go to one job in Buffalo then come back to son’s game , then go out to Buffalo again for the other job. Son’s game ended 15 minutes early for the 1st time that season. Dad couldn’t reschedule because he had to pay his lawyer to defend him at the OOP. Both customers said they could reschedule but nothing was available for either of them before the OOP. 

May 19th

Dad and child are taunted and provoked by mom and bf as they walk in local town Henrietta parade. It was a last ditch effort of Bahr and company, who coach mom and bf to stoop REAAALLLL LOW. All in effort to get Dad to do something they could use against him at the order of protection trial on May 23rd. They failed. 

May 20th

Dad still has trouble getting evidence for defense to Emanuel M. electronically. It is clear that someone is once again interfering illegally online. So he drives to Emanuel’s office but the office is closed. He calls Emanuel and Emanuel tells him he can slide the folder under Emanuel’s office door. 

Proof of many things in the mom’s OOP being lies was in the folder. So was the documented evidence of mom’s threats, manipulation, child neglect and deliberate actions to speak to the dad throughout the 5 months that dad had a no contact rule.

May 21st

Emanuel M. Tells dad he gives their chances of getting the OOP dropped , 90%!

May 23rd

OOP trial date

Emanuel tells dad he should take the deal right when dad arrives at the courthouse. Dad refuses. Mom’s lawyer shows clear anger when Emanuel tells her that they’re still going to trial. Dad, referee and mom come to a deal for extension of no contact, mom can’t use any of her old texts or “evidence” ever again and that the OOP will not limit the dad’s ability to go for full custody.

Dad is puzzled and asks if Emanuel saw the evidence. Emanuel says no and blames it on Dad for not getting it to him. Emanuel forgot that Dad slid the evidence under his door. The real reason Emanuel was so confident is because in normal circumstances, the OOP would’ve been dropped. But this is not normal and there are secrets. 

Referee gives dad the idea to use a different device for the phone calls. 

May 23rd afternoon

Dad calls CPS after referee advises it as something dad could possibly do. 

CPS can’t take a report of the mental abuse the child has suffered lately but files a report on the alcohol abuse that they suffered from back in 2018-2019 era. The thought that CPS might have felt like they were responsible for not doing their job in 2022, seemed plausible. 

May 24th

Child says to mom on phone “ you want to put an order of protection on my dad , then I don’t want to talk to you “. Then he hangs up. 

May 29th

Mom tells dad that they both need to text each other the 2 weeks that they want son for their vacation time that judge r placed as an order and rule to allow both parents a 2 weeks to do something fun. 

May 31st

Mom texts dad the 2 weeks she wants. Meanwhile dad is running out to Buffalo, and desperately trying to get the petition done. Dad was also in the middle of setting up a huge pool for son and fixing up the house and taking down a shed he spent a week on building because landlord didn’t like the shed dad created. He is still trying to get work and has no idea at the moment what weeks he wants. He soon forgets because of everything going on. 

June

CPS has interview with the child at school. Child tells them he wants to be with Dad and says everything Dad has been telling people for years. 

This includes how mom has treated dad , how dad has tried with mom, how he feels about her bf and her mocking, about mom lying to him many times, about his mom putting an OOP on dad, how his mom misses all of his stuff, how dad makes all of his stuff, how hes never seen husband dad with alcohol, how he has seen alcohol many times at his mom and her parents house, how his mom gave up Christmas , came late to his b day, showed up at the parade to taunt his dad, threatened to call cops on dad, how mom blames dad for everything that he truly feels and things he has said on his own . 

June 

CPS investigates mom’s house (mom’s parent’s house) 

June 17th

CPS comes to dad’s house and states that the fact is “the child wants to be with his Dad”. She also implies that she doesn’t think highly of the child’s mother and the mother’s parents. She also states the mother claimed the dad scared the child into stop playing baseball. 

ANOTHER false allegation that he scared son into not playing baseball. 

Dad was the one who signed him up . Dad is the one who signs him up for everything and fills in on the days mom can’t.

August

August 7th

Mom requests to have son for 3 hrs on dad’s day. Dad says ok but requests that she picks son up 3 hrs later on her day to pick him up. She declines but offers dad 1 hr extra. Dad says “ ok then no deal”. 

August 7th

A cybersecurity expert that Dad is working with is contacted by Hypocrite/dad’s old friend. Hypocrite claims he was hacked. 

This confirms even more that hypocrite is guilty and that hypocrite is already making excuses in preparation of being exposed. The same cybersecurity expert miraculously contacted by two people from the same town while one of them is clearly guilty does nothing but provide more evidence to support dad’s case. 

With only 15 minutes left until son gets picked up by mom, dad tells son he is not waiting another second and that they need to go right now to get more ink so dad can finish printing out the petition. 

Dad and son pass mom on the way. 

Mom texts dad and dad replies saying they are going to get ink so he can finish the petition and they will be right back. 

Mom says “ it could’ve waited, no reason you had to go now”. 

Dad says “ actually there is a BIG reason”. 

August 14th

Mom takes child to the mall to switch her phone⭐️ and to tell the child she is getting married !

Yes to the man who mocked them. The child replied “ you’re getting married !????”, in disgust. Mom says “ yeah what’s wrong with me getting married”?

To this day child says the mom has not once talked to him about the engagement again or about his obvious signs of displeasure and disappointment. Another huge sign of manipulation here is that they barely know each other. A year of 1-2 days a week is not enough to really know someone. 1-2 days a week is a fairy tale and it makes the time in between of not seeing each other become like the “ honey moon stage “ or “teenage love stage” when they do. That’s if it’s not completely fake. Another great point is that mom never tried once for her family but can rush an engagement while her son doesn’t like the guy because of the moment he represents. This further crushes Dad and Son inside because that is exactly how they feel until dad had time to think it through and see how it might all be fake. Even then, the feeling that they were not good enough for ONE solid effort... but hacking, cheating, manipulating, eavesdropping and provoking with an old friend of the dad’s was . 

August 14th 

After 3 years of no calls from Google or the dad’s website , dad gets 4 calls from customers on the day mom switches her phones. 

August 15th

Mom declines Dad’s requests for his vacation weeks out of spite. 

Mom allows son to go on vacation with dad’s family and drops son off to dad’s mom. 

Prior to this Dad asked mom if he can just keep son and use it as 1 of his vacation weeks for the summer. Mom declines and says that dad needed to send her his 2 weeks back in May, even though the agreement states the two parents are allowed to alter the order if both parties agree. So this serves as nothing more than pettiness and lack of care for the child. Proof of how she is more concerned with hurting dad than giving to her child. Proof that she has no intentions on coparenting and hasn’t changed one bit. 

August 23rd

A text from mom to dad shows that mom has an iPhone now. After having an android for years. ⭐️ 

This is now believed to be a move made by mom because what should happen when the police get a professional pen test is they seize the criminals phone to run a forensics on it. 

Dad calls CPS to see what’s going on with the investigation and when he will get the report. 

August

Truck repossessed while Dad and child continue working on putting up a new pool. 

Dad asks child to get something out of the truck. Child says the truck is gone. Sure enough… the truck was repossessed even though the finance company- ally financial, told dad he has time to try to get a dealership to buy it. 

Dad calls his friend 86 to ask for the Camaro temporarily because of what just happened. 86 let’s dad get the Camaro back . REAL BROTHER RIGHT THERE

August 25th

Dad brings son’s Nintendo switch to mom and gets son’s phone back that she kept off while holding until dad found son’s Nintendo switch that her parents bought him. Dad searched the entire house until he found it in the basement so that he could still speak to his son. 

August 27th

Son tells dad about Robin walking in at trampoline park

Saying that he was playing soccer at the trampoline park while his mom watched. Then all of a sudden Robin walked in and sat down next to mom. Son said Robin barely said anything to son the entire time and that it was very uncomfortable for him. This made dad think they were doing it on purpose to provoke dad because they knew son would tell him or they were doing it on purpose to get some pictures to make it look like son was completely cool with Robin. 

Dad tells son he can’t do anything because of the OOP. Later dad says he might be able to put an OOP on Robin. Dad asks if he wants him to . Son says “ yes , and one on my mom too”.  

This was not the first time son said this. He told dad to try to put one on her a few times because of his mom threatening to call the cops on his dad for no good reason. 

August 27th

Dad lays out a plan for the next day that involves getting the Camaro registered, serving the petition and attempting the OOP before 2pm when mom comes to get son 

August 28th early morning 

Mom was 30 minutes late to the meet the teacher appt. Son and Dad saw her pulling in as they were leaving. 

Dad and son go to the dmv to get the Camaro registered but dad forgot to bring the title 

So because son REALLY wanted dad to put an OOP on his mom and time was running out before mom came to get son, dad chooses to go to print out copies needed to serve mom the petition. 

August 28th around noon

So because son REALLY wanted dad to put an OOP on his mom and time was running out before mom came to get son, dad chooses to go to print out copies of the petition and then go to the sheriffs office downtown to have them serve mom. 

The printing took forever and made them rush. 

The copies got mixed up and dad frantically tried to get them in order as he knows that mom’s pick up time is in 30 minutes. Dad texts mom to tell her they will be late. As dad sorts out the papers, mom texts dad and threatens to call the cops AGAIN! 

Son sees the text message and reads it to dad. This has always scared son because he doesn’t want anything to happen to his dad. 

Dad and son race back. Dad tells son that after he drops him to his mom he will go back out and try to put the OOP on the bf for him. Son reminds dad , “ ok and please don’t forget my mom “. 

On the way back dad gets pulled over by a state trooper. 

The trooper needs updated insurance. 

Dad calls his friend 86 who happens to be around the corner and brings a screenshot of the insurance. But it’s expired so 86 calls his wife to get the updated policy sent to him. 

Meanwhile dad calls mom to tell them they are 3 minutes away. 

Mom says she will come and get son. 

As they wait for mom and the updated policy, someone parks about 100 years away and takes a photo of dad on one knee talking to son who is depressed that they didn’t get to the OOP. Son tells dad he REALLY doesn’t want to go with mom. Dad reassures him that it won’t be long and to stay strong . They look back to see if the lady taking a photo was still there and she was gone. 

Mom shows up and son gives dad one more big hug, he says to dad “ please don’t forget  about the order of protection on my mom”. Then says their usual departure statement “ lionheart level lionheart way “? Dad replied with “all day everyday “. 

As son got in mom’s car , dad was in shock by how desperate son was for such a thing and knew he had to try. 

The trooper finally got the insurance and told dad to immediately go back to the dmv to get things sorted and that the tickets should get tossed if he does. 

After Dad got out of the dmv , there was no time to get back downtown and file an order of protection and he was still wasn’t sure if it would work so he called 911 to get advice. 

Officer Gorman heard dad speak about all the times that mom tried to get dad arrested with her OOP and how it was affecting his son. Gorman suggested that in this case, he probably should try to put an OOP on mom. 

August 29th

Dad returns to the dmv with the documents he needed to finally get everything settled. While in line CPS finally calls back and makes dad walk outside. 

August 31st

Dad submits two discrimination reports

August 31st JCs party 

Mom brought son to dad’s friend’s labor day party on Saturday. She was parked at the top of the hill. As dad walked up , son got out and ran down the hill to dad and leaped into dad’s arms in pure joy. Dad looked at mom from 20’ ft away as she looked back. They stared at each other for about 5 seconds as dad held son tight. Dad wanted to invite her down to the party but already did in text and the fear of her rejecting him verbally made him mute. But her stare made dad want to think she was still in love with him. Made dad want to think she was silently telling him she was trapped and to please save her. But dad felt this before and all his efforts were denied. He knew the denial would trigger him and then she’d use that as a way to make him look bad. So dad turned to walk towards the party and looked back, she put the car in drive and then looked back too. Then they repeated everything again right before the face he wanted to kiss for the rest of his days disappeared behind a bush. (For more on this moment : Look out for “Dad’s journal” coming soon to fightforelias.com)

The saddest part about all of this is that most of what you read below was coached and pressured by others for the Mom to do. Below is the truest example of attempted parental alienation.

2022

Mom and dad’s old “friend” hack into dad’s stuff and delete his evidence after mom finds out Dad might take her to court.

April 2022

Dad goes for full custody , request hair follicle test for mom. 

Mom shows up to next hearing with hair bleached. 

Attorney for the child lies in court to benefit mom. 

November 12th

Dad finds some of the evidence that was criminally deleted, 3 days before trial on another device. 

Dad is scared into going to agreements as it was more than obvious his public defender was sent to make him go to agreements and dad had no reason to believe that he would fight for him after he told dad that the judge didn’t want to see dad’s evidence , the evidence was too old , and that if they went to trial “ someone would win full custody, is it worth it to you “? 

Plus dad never got to see or hear about mom’s “ evidence” because his public defender left on vacation the day of discovery and came back 1 day before trial. So Preparing for trial was impossible. Dad asked if could be adjourned and the PD said no. 

For months the agreement was signed and reversed while dad couldn’t review any of them. It is thought that was because dad kept calling in to check on it while and they knew the agreement was altered or because the 30 days to appeal was still in countdown. 

Christmas Eve 2022

Mom gives up Christmas morning to attend a drinking party . 

Son sees another huge truth that he won’t forget as son and dad go to mom’s house to get a card son made for dad’s mom. 

(See more details of 2022 on page “the fight so far “)

Late May 2023

Finally dad got in contact with PD. They revised the altered agreement that was written up by mom’s lawyer. Dad stated what he wanted to see changed and PD said he would get those things fixed , then give dad one more chance to review things before dad agrees. Pd also told dad he would get a transcript of the agreement hearing . Neither happened. 

(See more details of 2023 on page “the fight so far “)

June 6th 2023 

Agreement is signed without dad’s knowledge. The agreement is altered . One key thing being a rule that was “no alcohol or drugs around the child or where the child will be” TO “no excessive alcohol or drugs around the child “.

October 29th 2023

Mom shows up 3 hours late to son’s birthday that she use to attend for breakfast in bed when son woke up. 

October 31st

Mom tries to get so to go trick or treating for an hour with her. 

Son refuses to go with mom because she hurt him one too many times. 

Mom tries to force son to go with her but he refuses. Dad is blamed. Mom says it’s a court order and says the agreement is finally signed, but only mom was given a copy. 

Son requests that dad goes for full custody. 

November 

Mom doesn’t plan a b day party for son and ignores Dad’s invite to help him throw a b day party for son

November 25th 2023

Son tells dad he went to the strong museum with mom and her friend and his daughter. 

Mom tells dad and son later on the phone that he is just a friend. 

November 26th

Dad tells mom it would still be nice if son had his mom at his b day party. Mom comes for an hour. Dad quietly tells her that “Mr.anonymous has to go “. Mom says “ok”. Dad says he is serious and mom again says “ok” in a genuine manner. 

November 

Mom still refuses to say man’s name so dad says he will have him investigated. Mom admits to “ seeing someone” after lying to son or dad for who knows how long. They asked mom if she had a bf on and off for years

December 2nd

Doomsday

Mom dumps son off to dad after making an excuse to drop him when usually dad picks him up. Dad has seen this before and couldn’t take it anymore. Him and son get in their truck to go see if she was once again dropping son off to go out drinking. There they see a white gmc sierra in the driveway. As they drive by, they finally see the truth of who mom is. They’re world is flipped upside down as dreams crash into a million pieces. To make matters worse they are then mocked by the anonymous man saying “byyyeeeeee”. Dad stops , looks back at mom and tells her Monday he will be seeing a lawyer . Then the man and her both say “ byeeeeee”. As they drive home son is whispering in the back seat . Dad asks son what he’s saying. Son tells dad he was praying to Aunt Kari , his cousin mila that passed away and God. Dad in complete shock asks him what he prayed for. Son says “i asked them to please help us “. Dad and son get to the house and dad does everything he can to make son know that they will be ok and that none of it is his fault . Son cries and dad asks him “ if you could say something to your mom right now what would it be”? Son says “ I would ask her why she messed up our family “. Dad says “ then you should tell her that right now”. This was because for the last 5 years mom has blamed everything on dad and dad wanted her to know what she did to his son. Son texted her what he said . Son was ignored. Son still brings up how mom didn’t text him until 23 days later on Christmas . Mom has never spoken to son about this moment. 

December 4th

Dad makes child go with him to Mom’s work to try to make peace and make her understand it doesn’t have to be this way.

Son makes it clear that he doesn’t want to speak to Mom. Instead of her speaking to Son about it , she pokes his sides and tries to be cute to get him to smile . She continues this for at least 15 minutes until son finally gives in a little. Mom then takes dad to the side to tell him that they are never getting married, don’t text her, don’t come to her work and then blames dad for what happened on December 2nd. As dad defends himself, she says out loud “ if you’re going to raise your voice in front of my customers you can leave”. Dad recorded this and can prove that he did not raise his voice and that mom was only concerned with the false narrative staying put. She would later use this a false accusation of dad stalking and harassing her. 

December 5th 

Dad takes child to courage to change counseling. Now with a much more needing of help. 

Counselor immediately states it sounds exactly like the behavior of an addict. She advises dad to go for full custody or else nothing will ever change and they will both be victims until he does something to stop it. (The counselor has over 20 years experience with addicts.)

December 7th

Dad goes to a lawyer from icovangelo who says he can’t help because it’s so close to the agreement just being signed. 

December 8th

Dad speaks to another lawyer who is willing to meet . That lawyer(Emanuel M.) says the dad has a 50/50 shot at a new petition going through because it’s so close to the agreement. Dad chooses to wait until he gets a few more checks from the Christa project. 

December 10th

Dad texts mom out of frustration from his limited ability to file for full custody. and explains his anger towards her and who she has become . He tells her that once he gets his next check, it’s on . He also tells her he knows about something else that she has done and that he will bring it up in court if he has to. 

December 15th

Mom files an order of protection with false accusations and texts that she purposely provoked. It is granted with an order to the dad to only communicate with the mom about the child and to not speak to the child about court. 

December 19th

Dad receives the OOP. Cops state” don’t let this bother you, the court hands these things out like candy”. 

December 20th

Dad tells Emanuel M. about the OOP. Emanuel says they need to take care of the OOP first then go for full custody. 

December 

Mom asks child if he wants to go to the strong museum and child says yes. While getting in the car and excited, mom then tells child the bf and daughter might come. 

Child admitted to being more excited about going to have fun than being upset about the bf going. Child told mom that the bf seemed nice but was referring to the first time they went to the museum. 

Dec 2023

Christa goes 9 weeks in a row without paying Dad. 

Dad is forced into cashing Javen’s check to survive. 

December 25th

Dad and son get two new tv’s from Santa.  A perfect gift for a man cave  that the two planned to have in the basement very soon.

Dec 26th and 27th

Son is sick 

December 31st

Mom was going to bring son to dad’s family’s New Year’s Eve tradition until she found out it wasn’t her holiday. Dad tells her she is still invited but mom is not interested. 

Mom threatens to call the cops on dad. Again, because he messaged her something sad that son said to dad about mom. 

(See more details of 2023 on page “the fight so far “)

2024

For all of 2024  

Child tells mom he wants to be with his dad. He requests to call dad and is denied. Mom tells child the reason is because the child was mean to her by telling her what he wants. 

Other reasons were “your dad is mean to me” and “not now”. 

January 

Dad gets ahead on rent . He buys a New carpet for the basement as dad and son begin to execute their plans and dreams of when dad finally has his business going again. He uses the rest of his money to pay for material and equipment needed to finish the project he had with Christa construction for $209k. 

Jan 5th

Son is sick

January 8th,10th and 11th

Foreman from Christa, Mike Sr, has drywall delivered as Dad tries to finish the second to last phase of project. 

Mike sr was out to prove dad wrong from the beginning. Constantly harassing and delaying Dad. Dad was so close to not only proving he could handle the work volume by himself, but by actually dominating the other trades who had 10 plus men. Dad was 2 weeks in front of the drywall crew and was getting the trades ahead of him mad because he was passing them up. However Christa continued the narrative that dad wasn’t performing fast enough while delaying him on purpose. Dad over came the delays and still pulled away from the other trades. With the end in sight, Christa knew they had to do something to avoid paying dad $75k profit. Mike sr had stacks of drywall placed in every unit dad had to work in. 

January 15th

With 3 pcs of insulation left to install in the ceiling to complete the second to last section, Dad reached over a stack of drywall and got his hand caught in a metal bracket . This metal bracket gouged Dad’s finger and injured his wrist . Dad got 8 stitches. 

January 16th

Dad returns to the job site because he knew he was so close to finally getting his son and him out of the struggle once and for all and because he knew Christa was out to get him. He worked the next 2 weeks with just his left hand and maintained his lead over the drywall company. 

February 1st

Dad submits pay application to Christa for $12k. Way under what he was owed so that it couldn’t be disputed and to hopefully allow Christa to expedite the check so dad could make the $3200 insurance payment before the policy cancelled. Dad was 1-2 weeks away from finishing the project which would’ve amounted to around $75k profit. 

February 2nd

Insurance canceled 

Dad gets alerted by Christa that no one from his company can step foot on site because the liability insurance was cancelled. SCUM BAGS RESORT TO THIS BECAUSE THEY COULDNT STOP DAD.

February 4th

Notice to cure

Dad receives a notice to cure which asks for dad’s plan to fix things that weren’t really a problem and how long it would take dad to finish the project. Dad writes back with a schedule that shows 2 weeks of labor tops. The more realistic scenario would have been 1-1.5 weeks left to finish the project. He explains that the insurance can be reinstated if he can receive his payment. 

Dad has a job with stellar roofing lined up for around $3500 profit. 

Dad tells Christa he can start working on Christa’s project if he receives confirmation that they will not hold it against him and then he can use this profit to pay the insurance. Or he can finish the stellar job and then pay for the insurance himself. Christa does not reply 

February 6th

First hearing is adjourned because Emanuel has conflict in schedule. 

February 8th

Christa wrongfully terminates dad’s company while he had barely any money . They claim dad never responded to their email.  It is believed that someone on behalf of Christa deleted dad’s email by hacking. The forensics test would prove this if dad could get it

February 9th

February 10th

Dad finds out Christa had someone delete his response email to the notice to cure. Dad gets a lawyer named danish mustafa to help him dispute Christa’s scam. He shows mustafa the proof in which mustafa forwards the proof that the response was delivered and Christa did receive it. 

February 23rd

Son is sick

March 

"Get him while he's down".

Dad signs up for Angi ads . He received 71 leads. He could only get should have 16 of them. He won 10 jobs if the 16. 9/10 were a hour or more away. Almost like someone was stealing his leads or like he was outlawed in Monroe county . 

April

First OOP hearing has no agreement. Mom and her lawyer Karen C. request a year extension of the OOP on dad, while he was staying away from her. Making it clear someone was still hacking or they were out to crush dad no matter what. Trial is set for May 23rd. Dad must undergo the unfair set of rules for another month. 

April

Dad’s lease for his truck is up. Ally financial takes 2 payments out of dad’s account leaving him with -$454. 

April 12th

RGnE shows up to turn power off. An RGnE employee says he will write it down in his notes and tells dad to call RGnE on Monday. 

April 15th

Dad goes to workers comp doctor appt in the morning, that Nysif made a requirement for them to possibly help dad with his injury. Dr.Tim occonner down plays dad’s injury like he was paid by Nysif. 

Dad returns home to RGnE at his house turning the power off . Dad tries to stop them and explains his injury and financial problems. They continue. The RGnE workers cuts down a huge limb of dad’s neighbors tree but they dont cut all the way through. After turning the power off RGnE leaves the 80% limb hanging in dad’s yard.  Landlord later jumps on dad about it. 

Dad applies for heap and is denied wrongfully. 

Dad calls RGnE who gives him a list of things to submit. He does and is told he would get a decision in 3 days . 5 days go by and dad gets no response. RGnE denies dad as well . 

April 21st

Dad submits financial documents of 1 year prior to injury to Nysif thinking the workers comp insurance was going to help. 

Dad and son's basement floods and thousands of dollars in damage occurs. 

The tv's and carpet amongst the wreckage.

May

Dad takes son to baseball practice and games while fixing a flooded basement and trying to get jobs from the compromised business apps. 

Stellar roofing gets rid of dad after they stab him in the back by hiring another company after dad gave stellar his entire system and taught the owner and the salesman what to say to the customers. Stellar used dads brief need of help with buying material and dads inability to perform like usual because of his injury and because of Christa construction and Javen construction leaving him out of over $100k. Now stellar claims to be insulation professionals. 

May 9th

Dad helps someone else who gets their power turned off by RGnE 

Dad goes out to Fillmore to insulate a shed for a lady named Jeanette Brighon. Jeanette didn’t have much money so dad gave her a great deal. When he arrives no one is there . Suddenly an RGnE van pulls up to disconnect their power. 

Dad decides to leave with 75% of the job done because he didn’t like that no one was home and that Jeanette probably wouldn’t be able to pay . As he goes to leave Jeanette and her husband pull in. Jeanette sadly agrees that dad should probably leave and they will call him once they gave the money. Dad thinks about how he felt when RGnE did that to him and how the lady was trying to move into a shed to cut costs. Plus she would be freezing at night with no heat and no insulation. So dad turns around and starts working again . Jeanette comes out to dad and asks “ what are you doing “? Dad says “ i know how this feels for you and I’m not leaving you like this “, pay me when you can". Dad knew he probably wouldn’t see a dime but he did it anyways . 

Jeanette started crying and gave dad a HUGE hug like they knew each other forever. Two good people falling apart because of unfair circumstances hugging each other as gods children. 

Dad never got a call back. He lost out on $550 at a moment he needed money bad . But he still helped someone else along the way. Son was very proud of Dad for that.

May 18th

Dad fights through a day of absolute mayhem to get two jobs done that are both an hour away while desperately trying to make it to son’s baseball game and continue his perfect attendance. 

He has no choice but to go to one job in Buffalo then come back to son’s game , then go out to Buffalo again for the other job. Son’s game ended 15 minutes early for the 1st time that season. Dad couldn’t reschedule because he had to pay his lawyer to defend him at the OOP. Both customers said they could reschedule but nothing was available for either of them before the OOP. Dad was 5 minutes away when they ended the game. His perfect streak was gone because he had to work to pay a lawyer for an oop he didn't deserve.

May 19th

Dad and child are taunted and provoked by mom and bf as they walk in local town Henrietta parade. 

May 20th

Dad still has trouble getting evidence for defense to Emanuel M. electronically. It is clear that someone is once again interfering illegally online.So he drives to Emanuel’s office but the office is closed. He calls Emanuel and Emanuel tells him he can slide the folder under Emanuel’s office door. 

Proof of many things in the mom’s OOP being lies was in the folder. So was the documented evidence of mom’s threats, manipulation, child neglect and deliberate actions to speak to the dad throughout the 5 months that dad had a no contact rule.

May 21st

Emanuel M. Tells dad he gives their chances of getting the OOP dropped , 90%!

May 23rd

OOP trial date

Emanuel tells dad he should take the deal right when dad arrives at the courthouse. Dad refuses. Mom’s lawyer shows clear anger when Emanuel tells her that they’re still going to trial. Dad, referee and mom come to a deal for extension of no contact, mom can’t use any of her old texts or “evidence” ever again and that the OOP will not limit the dad’s ability to go for full custody.

Dad is puzzled and asks if Emanuel saw the evidence. Emanuel says no and blames it on Dad for not getting it to him. Emanuel forgot that Dad slid the evidence under his door. The real reason Emanuel was so confident is because in normal circumstances, the OOP would’ve been dropped. But this is not normal and there are secrets. 

Referee gives dad the idea to use a different device for the phone calls. 

May 23rd afternoon

Dad calls CPS after referee advises it as something dad could possibly do. 

CPS can’t take a report of the mental abuse the child has suffered lately but files a report on the alcohol abuse that they suffered from back in 2018-2019 era. The thought that CPS might have felt like they were responsible for not doing their job in 2022, seemed plausible. 

May 24th

Child says to mom on phone “ you want to put an order of protection on my dad , then I don’t want to talk to you “. Then he hangs up. 

Dad stops forcing son to talk to mom because all she does is blame him for everything so that she doesn’t have to acknowledge what she is responsible for. This makes her never change and only get worse as the courts and everyone assists her. The OOP finally made dad stop forcing son. The calls were always another moment of neglect when mom got off the phone before son asked too and if son asked to, mom would quickly accept. ( as long as she heard what son did for the day. She had to make sure she documented any day that son said they played video games. As if dad wasn’t bringing him to 4 activities a week) it was always very clear mom didn’t care but she blamed it on being a parent who doesn’t force their child to stay on the phone. 

Son still talked to dad for 15 minutes - 2 hours when he was at mom’s, but now by using his phone . Meanwhile dad kept mom blocked. 

May 29th

Mom tells dad that they both need to text each other the 2 weeks that they want son for their vacation time that judge r placed as an order and rule to allow both parents a 2 weeks to do something fun. 

May 31st

Mom texts dad the 2 weeks she wants. Meanwhile dad is running out to Buffalo, and desperately trying to get the petition done. Dad was also in the middle of setting up a huge pool for son and fixing up the house and taking down a shed he spent a week on building because landlord didn’t like the shed dad created. He is still trying to get work and has no idea at the moment what weeks he wants. He soon forgets because of everything going on. 

June

CPS has interview with the child at school. Child tells them he wants to be with Dad and says everything Dad has been telling people for years. 

This includes how mom has treated dad , how dad has tried with mom, how he feels about her bf and her mocking, about mom lying to him many times, about his mom putting an OOP on dad, how his mom misses all of his stuff, how dad makes all of his stuff, how hes never seen husband dad with alcohol, how he has seen alcohol many times at his mom and her parents house, how his mom gave up Christmas , came late to his b day, showed up at the parade to taunt his dad, threatened to call cops on dad, how mom blames dad for everything that he truly feels and things he has said on his own . 

June 

CPS investigates mom’s house (mom’s parent’s house) 

June 17th

CPS comes to dad’s house and states that the fact is “the child wants to be with his Dad”. She also implies that she doesn’t think highly of the child’s mother and the mother’s parents. She also states the mother claimed the dad scared the child into stop playing baseball. 

ANOTHER false allegation that he scared son into not playing baseball. 

Dad was the one who signed him up . Dad is the one who signs him up for everything and fills in on the days mom can’t.

August

Dad gets a new lawyer to go after Christa named Mark O. Mark thinks $115k seems more than reasonable. Mark does a few dispute letters then backs out and leaves dad on his own again. Did he get paid by Christa or is he just another fake ? 

August- the biggest slap in the face for Dad and Son

Early August 

Mom turns son’s phone off and demands dad brings back the Nintendo. 

She did this out of spite because son was making it too obvious how he really felt as he answered Dad’s call all the time, and never answered moms. She knew the truth but of course blamed dad for that too. 

August 7th

Mom requests to have son for 3 hrs on dad’s day. Dad says ok but requests that she picks son up 3 hrs later on her day to pick him up. She declines but offers dad 1 hr extra. Dad says “ ok then no deal”. 

August 7th

A cybersecurity expert that Dad is working with is contacted by Hypocrite/dad’s old friend. Hypocrite claims he was hacked. 

This confirms even more that hypocrite is guilty and that hypocrite is already making excuses in preparation of being exposed. The same cybersecurity expert miraculously contacted by two people from the same town while one of them is clearly guilty does nothing but provide more evidence to support dad’s case. A subpoena to the app Dad and hypocrite spoke to the cyber security guy on, should take care of that and provide a lot more evidence of government corruption as the app showed to be manipulated much like angi ads.

With only 15 minutes left until son gets picked up by mom, dad tells son he is not waiting another second and that they need to go right now to get more ink so dad can finish printing out the petition. 

Dad and son pass mom on the way. 

Mom texts dad and dad replies saying they are going to get ink so he can finish the petition and they will be right back. 

Mom says “ it could’ve waited, no reason you had to go now”. 

Dad says “ actually there is a BIG reason”. 

August 14th

Mom takes child to the mall to switch her phone⭐️ and to tell the child she is getting married !

Yes to the man who mocked them. The child replied “ you’re getting married !????”, in disgust. Mom says “ yeah what’s wrong with me getting married”?

To this day child says the mom has not once talked to him about the engagement again or about his obvious signs of displeasure and disappointment. Another huge sign of manipulation here is that they barely know each other. A year of 1-2 days a week is not enough to really know someone. 1-2 days a week is a fairy tale and it makes the time in between of not seeing each other become like the “ honey moon stage “ or “teenage love stage” when they do. That’s if it’s not completely fake. Another great point is that mom never tried once for her family but can rush an engagement while her son doesn’t like the guy because of the moment he represents. This further crushes the dad and child inside because that is exactly how they feel until dad has time to think it through and see how it might all be fake. Even then, the feeling that they were not good enough for one solid effort, but hacking, cheating, manipulating, eavesdropping and provoking with an old friend of the dad’s was . 

August 14th 

After 3 years of no calls from Google or the dad’s website , dad gets 4 calls from customers on the day mom switches her phones. 

August 15th

Mom declines dad’s requests for his vacation weeks out of spite. 

Mom allows son to go on vacation with dad’s family and drops son off to dad’s mom. 

Prior to this Dad asked mom if he can just keep son and use it as 1 of his vacation weeks for the summer. Mom declines and says that dad needed to send her his 2 weeks back in May, even though the agreement states the two parents are allowed to alter the order if both parties agree. So this serves as nothing more than pettiness and lack of care for the child. Proof of how she is more concerned with hurting dad than giving to her child. Proof that she has no intentions on coparenting and hasn’t changed one bit. 

Landlord refuses payment for rent and serves him with a notice to quit Because Dad texted her out of anger when landlord kept coming at him about pay after she knew he was injured and lost a lot of money and kept drivibg by the house to tell him to change things after he was close to being done and after he spent days on something. It was clear she just wanted him gone so she could sell it. 

August 23rd

A text from mom to dad shows that mom has an iPhone now. After having an android for years. ⭐️ 

This is now believed to be a move made by mom because what should happen when the police get a professional pen test is they seize the criminals phone to run a forensics on it. 

Dad calls CPS to see what’s going on with the investigation and when he will get the report. 

August 25th

Landlord has a 90 day notice to quit sent to dad. Meanwhile she is refusing to accept any payments for rent. 

Dad brings son’s Nintendo switch to mom and gets son’s phone back that she kept off while holding until dad found son’s Nintendo switch that her parents bought him. Dad searched the entire house until he found it in the basement so that he could still speak to his son. 

August 26th

Dad turns son’s phone back on and sons Google account that was the main account for the phone is deleted. (See page evidence to learn why ) 

Truck repossessed while Dad and child continue working on putting up a new pool. 

Dad asks child to get something out of the truck. Child says the truck is gone. Sure enough… the truck was repossessed even though the finance company, ally financial, told dad he has time to try to get a dealership to buy it. 

Dad calls his friend 86 to ask for the Camaro temporarily because of what just happened. 86 let’s dad get the Camaro back . REAL BROTHER RIGHT THERE

August 27th TUANTING AND PROVOKING

Son tells dad about Robin walking in at trampoline park

Son said he was playing soccer at the trampoline park while his mom watched. Then all of a sudden Robin walked in and sat down next to mom. Son said Robin barely said anything to son the entire time and that it was very uncomfortable for him. This made dad think they were doing it on purpose to provoke dad because they knew son would tell him or they were doing it on purpose to get some pictures to make it look like son was completely cool with Robin. 

Dad tells son he can’t do anything because of the OOP. Later dad says he might be able to put an OOP on Robin. Dad asks if he wants him to . Son says “ yes , and one on my mom too”.  

This was not the first time son said this. He told dad to try to put one on her a few times because of his mom threatening to call the cops on his dad for no good reason. 

August 27th

Dad lays out a plan for the next day that involves getting the Camaro registered, serving the petition and attempting the OOP before 2pm when mom comes to get son 

August 28th early morning 

Mom was 30 minutes late to the meet the teacher appt. Son and Dad saw her pulling in as they were leaving. 

Dad and son go to the dmv to get the Camaro registered but dad forgot to bring the title 

So because son REALLY wanted dad to put an OOP on his mom and time was running out before mom came to get son, dad chooses to go to print out copies needed to serve mom the petition. 

August 28th around noon

So because son REALLY wanted dad to put an OOP on his mom and time was running out before mom came to get son, dad chooses to go to print out copies of the petition and then go to the sheriffs office downtown to have them serve mom. 

The printing took forever and made them rush. 

The copies got mixed up and dad frantically tried to get them in order as he knows that mom’s pick up time is in 30 minutes. Dad texts mom to tell her they will be late. As dad sorts out the papers, mom texts dad and threatens to call the cops AGAIN! 

Son sees the text message and reads it to dad. This has always scared son because he doesn’t want anything to happen to his dad. 

Dad and son race back. Dad tells son that after he drops him to his mom he will go back out and try to put the OOP on the bf for him. Son reminds dad , “ ok and please don’t forget my mom “. 

On the way back dad gets pulled over by a state trooper. 

The trooper needs updated insurance. 

Dad calls his friend 86 who happens to be around the corner and brings a screenshot of the insurance. But it’s expired so 86 calls his wife to get the updated policy sent to him. 

Meanwhile dad calls mom to tell them they are 3 minutes away. 

Mom says she will come and get son. 

As they wait for mom and the updated policy, someone parks about 100 years away and takes a photo of dad on one knee talking to son who is depressed that they didn’t get to the OOP. Son tells dad he REALLY doesn’t want to go with mom. Dad reassures him that it won’t be long and to stay strong . They look back to see if the lady taking a photo was still there and she was gone. 

Mom shows up and son gives dad one more big hug, he says to dad “ please don’t forget  about the order of protection on my mom”. Then says their usual departure statement “ lionheart level lionheart way “? Dad replied with “all day everyday “. 

As son got in mom’s car , dad was in shock by how desperate son was for such a thing and knew he had to try. 

The trooper finally got the insurance and told dad to immediately go back to the dmv to get things sorted and that the tickets should get tossed if he does. 

After Dad got out of the dmv , there was no time to get back downtown and file an order of protection and he was still wasn’t sure if it would work so he called 911 to get advice. 

Officer Gorman heard dad speak about all the times that mom tried to get dad arrested with her OOP and how it was affecting his son. Gorman suggested that in this case, he probably should try to put an OOP on mom. 

August 29th

Dad returns to the dmv with the documents he needed to finally get everything settled. While in line, CPS finally calls back and makes dad walk outside. The lady from cps lies to Dad that they had a 2nd interview w the child. 

She says that the child said the complete opposite of what he said to them at the first interview they had at his school. (this happens again by another child advocate in October.)

Dad files for an OOP against mom on behalf of him and the child. 

He requests That she doesn’t have robin around to taunt son or to provoke Dad and that she doesn’t use the OOP to threaten him in front of son. He explains that she is using it to bully him and to try to get him to violate so she can have him arrested. He also brought proof that many things in her OOP were false accusations. The judge refused to view them and denied his request for an OOP. He actually needed protection and was denied . His son needed protection and was denied. 

Later dad asked son why he didn’t tell him he had a 2nd interview with CPS. Son said he didn’t. He immediately and convincingly said that they have to be lying to Dad. 

August 31st

Dad submits two discrimination reports

August 31st JCs party 

Dad asked mom if son could come to JCs party. Mom brought son to dad’s friend’s labor day party on Saturday. She was parked at the top of the hill. As dad walked up , son got out and ran down the hill to dad and leaped into dad’s arms in pure joy. Dad looked at mom from 20’ ft away as she looked back. They stared at each other for about 5 seconds as dad held son tight. Dad wanted to invite her down to the party but already did in text and the fear of her rejecting him verbally made him mute. But her stare made dad want to think she was still in love with him. Made dad want to think she was silently telling him she was trapped and to please save her. But dad felt this before and all his efforts were denied. He knew the denial would trigger him and then she’d use that as a way to make him look bad. So dad turned to walk towards the party and looked back, she put the car in drive and then looked back too. Then they repeated everything again right before the face he wanted to kiss for the rest of his days disappeared behind a bush. (For more on this moment : Look out for “Dad’s journal” coming soon to fightforelias.com)

September 11th

Dad files a $38k mechanics lien against Christa. As of 12/7/24; still hasn't received a dime.

September- family court begins, proof of criminal activity is found, dad gets arrested

September 14th

Dad gets proof of felonies, but Dad gets arrested for 1 text message 

Dad gets proof of felonies by hypocrite, mom, and what seems to be one of hypocrite’s parents and one of mom’s parents. (Or by certain local corrupt government employees)

Dad gets a professional cyber security pen test and vulnerability report that has proof of hypocrite and mom hacking into his stuff. Before Dad calls the cops , he tries to give mom a chance by talking to her about it. She ignores him and Dad texts her that she’s a psycho because dad couldn’t believe she was going to force him to call the cops. Before Dad could get the courage to call the cops on the woman he loved and his son’s mother. Mom calls the cops and has Dad arrested for a violation of the OOP. 

September 18th

Child custody. Round 2, hearing 1. 

The first court date the attorney for the child admits to the child telling her that he doesn't want to be with mom and wants to be with dad. 

The afc met with son at school without either parent knowing to get genuine information without either parent being able to prep the child. 

Son lists off numerous reasons why he wants to be with dad. Son told Dad about this and said he asked the afc to please tell the judge what he really said and wants. This was because the afc in 2022 lied about what the child wanted and then CPS lied. 

The afc mentions that son said a couple things that were word for word what dad said in his petition. To a bias thinker this is automatically brainwashing. But this is actually a testimony to how close dad and son are and how well dad knows son. It makes sense if you think about these two going through this for 5 years! The conversations between dad and son are normal because they both go through the trauma everyday and see things that no one else sees or pays attention too. 

Dad tries to explain to the court that his child and him talk about a lot of stuff but that dad doesn’t do it to hurt mom. He says that half of the time son brings the conversation up or it’s right after mom just did something obvious and deliberate to one of them that son was already thinking or feeling. 

Judge Christine interrupts dad and says he basically just admitted to violating his order of protection .

Dad later wrote how 1. he never said when they spoke so it could have been referring to before the OOP was served. 2. He wasn’t ordered that he couldn’t talk at all about the mother, he was ordered not to make derogatory comments about the mother. 3. Everything he says to the child is the truth. He doesn’t make things up. And he never spoke about these truths until after mom started telling son that the reason she doesn’t try to work things out for their family is because dad is mean to her! THIS is actually the only brainwashing going on because it is NOT TRUE. And it made son think twice about his dad, forcing dad to defend himself by accurately educating son. Dad has never lied to son, mom has lied multiple times. Mom has manipulated almost everyone around them, but she can’t manipulate Son because son has seen what dad has seen and what everyone else has not. Son has caught mom in lies. And now the real reason why mom left should be pretty obvious. If it isn’t … look at the 2021 timeline in December. 

Judge Christine orders an additional order that dad refrains from speaking to child but doesn’t implement more specifics. 

This was scary to Dad because it showed the court is a little too helpful with this OOP. It appears to be in the courts best interest because Dad does have a good case for discrimination and the court knows it. But instead of the court seeing that dad is only bringing it up to hopefully avoid it happening again, the court, just like mom, finds a reason to justify their actions instead of just simply being better to dad and son. In turn dad is put in a spot where If dad slips up one time under these unfair rules that are almost made to be impossible because he has to be around the person with the OOP on him frequently, then dad gets arrested and the court and mom looked vindicated. 

Another reason for the extreme and over the top additional order could be that mom’s lawyer also violated order by putting in their cross petition things that was ordered not to be brought up ever again. At the OOP on May 23rd, the deal was that dad gets another year of no contact while mom agrees that all prior “evidence” can no longer be used. Another rule was that the OOP wouldn’t restrict dad’s ability in going for full custody. So maybe, the judge knew this, so just in case, put her own order on dad to make sure the narrative continues. 

Depending on when exactly mom’s lawyer submitted the petition to the judge who admitted in the hearing she had reviewed, there’s good chance that they violated order before dad did. Yet dad faces criminal charges. 

Could it be that everyone knows mom is guilty of crimes, which would probably prove  discrimination and if those crimes resulted in the court accepting illegal evidence then the court is just as guilty ? Could it be that this is why the OOP was assisted while the crimes were ignored? Could it be that pushing dad into an almost impossible situation was a plan to get dad to have a title of being a criminal BEFORE mom got one and the proof came out, so that no one cares to help because everyone thinks dad deserved all of it ? 

Dad sent the proof of the hacking to the afc before the hearing and requested the afc gets it to the judge. No response and no indication that the judge saw it. 

October 

Dad’s stepbrother starts a business and signs up for Angi ads.

To stay off the grid and avoid the hacking/blocking dad has endured, dad incorporates his system with a new phone and number.

Dad calls the local town court to find out when his OOP hearing is 

because he is overwhelmed with documents, petitions, finding work, getting evidence, trying to get someone to acknowledge the evidence, trying to save his house, while trying to fight with a completely shattered heart from moms latest action that told dad and son they weren’t worth 1 moment of effort while she forced an engagement to the man who mocked them. Dad was told Thursday October 10th, and that he already missed the hearing for the ticket he got from the trooper in late August. The lady on the phone placed his ticket to be addressed with his court hearing for the OOP violation. 

October 9th

AFC lies to Dad and accuses dad of parental alienation in teams conference. 

She states that she read dad’s entire petition but then later said she didn’t know dad had an OOP on him. The OOP was the ultimate example of who mom became and how mom treated dad and son. Because of this , the OOP was everywhere in the petition. She defended mom about mom missing so many events and attacked dad for saying that he heated his son tell the AFC in 2022 that he wanted to be with his dad 5 days and his mom 2. Once dad told her that son requested him to go for full custody over a year ago while dad was still trying to work things out w mom for son… the afc stopped accusing. She gave dad advice on how to get help with the proof he had that was being ignored everywhere else. She also said that she had a 2nd interview with the child and wanted dad to know that if there are things that son wanted to stay confidential between her and son, they would. She said son said he didn’t like how mom and dad argued. So she asked him if he would like the schedule to be 1 week w mom and 1 week w dad. She didn’t say what son’s response was, and since dad has an order to not speak to son, he either can’t or he can’t say what son told him because then the court would smack him with a violation. A perfect compliment to judge Christine’s addition protective layer on the order to not speak to son. A masterful scheme to be able to say that son is only saying things to make dad happy. This would give reason for every unfair order which would also take away the factor of discrimination. But the evidence of neglect , taunting, criminal activity and trauma that dad had NOTHING to do with is still there no matter what they accuse dad of and no matter how many words they put in son’s mouth. There is tons of evidence that the court doesn’t know of yet that proves son really wants to be with dad. It will be at trial IF dad can make it to trial for custody. 

October 10th

Dad goes to his hearing and finds out the real date was Tuesday october 8th. 

This could be coincidence and an honest mistake by the court contact or by dad but dad immediately wrote it down on his calendar and even told the afc about it the day before in which she said “ how come I didn’t know you had an OOP on you , and HOW DOES THE CHILD know about it !??? 🙄 implying that the child knew because dad was being abusive or something . Definitely not ever a thought that maybe it was because he tried to go for full custody of his son and then had to explain why he had to wait because someone else was coached into stringing first with an OOP . 

October

Angi charges $200 less per month for step brother and the first 5 leads are all within the county. About 4 out of the first 5 leads were successfully contacted. The two land one job after a raised price strategy didn’t work.

October

Dad’s new phone suddenly has a Lenovo app and a Verizon app installed. Neither company was affiliated to his phone. 

The next 8-10 leads are ghosts. Neither dad nor stepbrother can get ahold of any of the leads. 

October

Another family member named Bernard lets dad borrow $500 for Microsoft ads. 

The app is immediately compromised and dad gets zero calls for the next two months. Microsoft confirms the hacking but no further updates are made.

Porch.com, yelp , google ads and others were also completely hacked. 

Dad reported it to all of them too. Not one company did anything. HOW MANY LAWSUITS CAN ONE MAN BE IN LINE FOR ???????

November 14th

Dad goes to OOP violation hearing and pleads not guilty . Dad gets placed on pre trial services with more rules .The DA states dad’s actions were concerning as they might harm the child. Dad couldn’t believe someone would say something like that about him. Dad immediately goes back to blocking mom and vows to not speak to her until the OOP is done. 

Judge Christine changes the schedule to make it so dad didn’t have more nights and everything was even Steven. 

Now son suffers more because he misses out on church 2 times a month and seeing the Buffalo bills game with dad 2 times a month. Son hates the schedule. This was only because Dad was going to go for child support since technically he had majority custody with 4 nights. Dad always declined to try this until he got proof of mom hacking and his business struggles being rooted from her and hypocrite. And of course the fact that he was now about to lose his home , with them being the most responsible. 

Unfortunately judge Christine and company made sure not even a smidgen of payback was given. 

November to now

Dad leaves mom blocked and misses 3 more things of son’s because of it. After months of son requesting to call dad or see his dad when he was with mom, Mom finally lets so